|How do you explain? [message #27372]
||Wed, 03 February 2016 07:54
Registered: February 2016
Location: Tampa, FL
Hi everyone! I've having some trouble with explaining to my extended family, my husbands entire family and our friends WHY we're choosing an agency (AA) that specializes in infants and newborns, rather than fostering, or foster-to-adopt an older or special needs child that's already in the system.|
I asked my mom 2 years ago when we were just starting to consider adoption: "Is it wrong of me not to want to adopt an older child? Is it selfish of me to want an infant or newborn?"
My mom, who, thank goodness is very supportive, said "Absolutely NOT! You just want what most women in the world can have naturally, only you have to spend over $40,000 to do it. You have EVERY right to be as picky as you want to be. Don't worry about what others say."
But we ARE worried about what others say. And we've started fielding questions left and right.. "Why not foster a child who really needs a home?" - "Why do you NEED an infant? Lots of other kids need homes already!" - "So many children are in need of a home, why can't you just go through your state? Plus, it's cheaper!"
Are you guys experiencing any of these questions? And how are you explaining things? Or are you just ignoring them? It's hard to ignore when its your family or close friends..you know?
I'd love any advice you can give.
Thanks in advance
Aimee (& Kevin)